marc How is telling someone to wipe their tears making things worse?
Wow. Well, what kind of answer do you want: layman or professional?
If you want to educate yourself on a pro-level - go read about humanistic theory of approach to psychology and humanistic psychotherapy in general, and read works by people such as Carl Rogers. In very basic - and I mean very, ultimately basic - terms, everyone longs to be listened to, acknowledged and understood. We all want to be heard and validated. Even if what we have to say isn’t true, our need to be understood is more important than what we say. Depressed people need understanding the most because everyone fucking thinks the answer is "get a grip" and "wipe your tears"! It doesn't work this way!
In layman terms, there's a wonderful Pixar animation named Inside Out, and there's a character named Sadness, and her whole plotline is just his: sometimes you do not tell people to wipe their tears.
Is it really that hard to understand?
marc To be happy. Otherwise no matter what you have you'll always be sad.
So... your definition of happiness is shallow and blind appreciation of... whatever you personally have. Right? Well, I'm glad for you, if anything. Guess it's easy to be happy when you ain't able to see further than that.
Shame on me, I guess, for not being so egotistical and not having that much love for my very own precious special fucking life. Somehow I tend to think about others every now and then as well.
marc We all want to and were meant to live.
This is only correct from a purely biological point of view, but humans have long ago rose far above simple biology. Hell, some people argue there are evidence of suicide among animals, so you probably don't even need to rise that far above biology.
Anyway, if we include all the non-biological things that makes us human, this statement becomes a logical error, one that is likely the root of the rest of your errancies.
Commander Grausam For one, not all "depression" is actually a mental illness. It's very much on a spectrum though between reactive depression (i.e. caused by life circumstances) and depression simply caused by a chemical imbalance (which happens), which it seems no one actually ever talks about. Some people are depressed because of a life situation. Meds can't fix your life.
True. Not to mention a large amount of attention whores on various websites who pretty much turned "depression" into yet another buzzword, but never actually were depressed themselves even a single day of their life.
